a few months ago I blogged and I was basically asking if Cherry was carrying me and I was riding her coattails.. and if I’d just faded into the background. And honestly… the funny part is nobody really talks about that anymore. Most people don't notice me, comment on my blogs, or know who I am. The conversation moved on, like it always does. But I didn’t. I’ve just been paying attention in a different way. Not to the loud stuff. Not the obvious wins, the big personalities, or whatever narrative is trending that week. I’ve been more focused on the smaller things. The patterns. The moments people don’t think matter. The little “Easter eggs” that kind of get left behind in conversations, decisions, and how people move. Because if you’ve been around long enough, you start to realize the game (and honestly, life too) isn’t really about the big flashy moves. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening underneath all of it. And for me, a lot of that keeps pointing back to Cherry. She’s still doing what she does — connecting with people, pulling attention without even trying, and just naturally being someone people gravitate toward. That hasn’t changed. If anything, it’s gotten stronger. The difference now is how I see it. Before, it kind of felt like I was just… there. Like I was getting swept up in everything she had going on. Like I was the one drifting while she was the one driving the momentum. Now? I think I just understand the dynamic better. We’ve been together almost a decade. That’s a long time to figure out how someone thinks, how they react, and how they operate in chaotic situations. It’s not about competing with that — it’s about knowing where you fit into it. Cherry and I are a team. Where to step in. Where to stay back. When to push. When to let things play out. And yeah, sometimes things still turn into a bunch of malarkey. That part hasn’t changed either. But instead of getting caught up in it, I’ve been… navigating it. So no, I don’t really feel forgotten anymore. If anything, I feel like I’ve just been playing a different kind of game this whole time — one that’s a little quieter, a little more patient, but still very much intentional. Call it overthinking, call it reading too much into things, call it whatever you want. But I’ve been hunting. And somehow, all the clues keep leading me back to the same place: Cherry. 🍒
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