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Last night my husband hit me, I’ve already said I’m going to leave for a week. I love him but hitting me in the ribs is such a disrespect on me and the fact that he just turned over & went to sleep afterwards is mindboggling. Asking my IRL friends if I can stay with them. I didn’t want to blog this initially but I had to tell someone because I’m going insane. That’s the only reason I ever blog anymore unless it’s for games. Love you. Laters…

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Holly4 months ago

i'm so sorry to hear this happened to you :( no one deserves that and i hope you find an emotionally/physically safe space. i think people can be quick to tell you to leave, but leaving is the most dangerous time for those in abusive situations. i'm glad you seem to have a support system

MarieEve4 months ago

Ohh read about the cycle of violence. Its interesting. I believe if he can do that one time he can do it more.

Ribs4 months ago

This is very sad. You need to seek psychological help; saying "I love him/her" even after all this indicates a serious emotional dependency. I hope you can get through this and find your true worth. All our love to you, we're with you.

Holly4 months ago

Ribs i feel like you had good intentions with this but i strongly disagree with your wording/framing. this comes across as judgmental and shifts blame onto them. i mean, that's their husband.. of course they love him?? internal conflict of loving the perpetrator while also knowing physical abuse is wrong is very common

Ribs4 months ago

Holly I forgot that you Americans have a limited vocabulary and don't understand the complexity of things. I don't know if the concept of "emotional dependence" exists in North America, but it refers precisely to this conflict of feelings. The victim is never to blame in such a situation, and it involves many things. I didn't judge you for saying you love him; I said that the fact that you still love him even after such a situation indicates emotional dependence. You're just repeating what I said.

JACK_O_LANTERN4 months ago

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Ribs4 months ago

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RobbieRIOT4 months ago

When I found myself in an abusive situation, I did exactly what you did. I told people. That makes it real and it makes it so you have to deal with it. Tell someone in real life, if you haven't yet. Ironically, I confided in some ORG friends I had at the time. It made the next steps crystal clear. I wasn't going to allow myself to hand hands laid in me, tell people, and then be foolish enough to go back to him. You've got this, but you need to stay strong and keep telling people you care about.

shrimp4 months ago

hugs u i know we don't know each other but please please please reach out to me + your friends here if you need anything. i know it's incredibly difficult to speak about abuse and i am proud of you for taking care of yourself