does anyone
have a psychological reasoning for this? like "wanting something i can't have" type thing. my ex got engaged a few weeks ago, to the same girl he broke up with 2 years ago when i said i wanted to give us another chance. but after a few weeks i decided i just wasn't really attracted to him ππππ now that hes engaged im like thinking toxic thoughts cus i know he would choose me if i reached out hehe
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My therapist told me a while back itβs mourning or missing the storyβ¦not the actual person. Subconsciously itβs more so about what couldβve been.
Britt yes i 100% feel this. i loved the idea of him and what we could have, but not the actual person. however i feel like thats all men for me and just my unrealistic expectations and life lmao!
brookie yes! Sheβd tell me βgirl you didnβt want that man, you want the story in your headβ ππ€£
Britt that makes so much sense
i feel like attachment theory can explain literally anything regarding relationships
Holly my therapist keeps talking about attachment styles!
Cherry i fear i have them all
Cherry i love attachment theory! i do attachment work with a lot of my clients and it helps them not only understand their own behaviors in interpersonal relationships, but other people's behaviors as well :)
you should message him
DOOM i'm trying really hard to leave the man be! but he texted me happy birthday and doesn't know that i know about the engagement π
brookie not him messaging you happy birthday!
oh hell yeah i used to do this with my exes. and every time i start a new relationship, here they come flocking
Fire LITERALLY!!!!!!
Itβs mental illness, but itβs okay itβs like the gays on here obsessed with straight men
x LMFAOOOO