Protecting minors

Capzacsparrow1 hour ago

Evan I have just told you lmao , though maybe its a case of losing nuance because its talking via text . It's easy to misread intent when you there's no voice just words lmao. That said if that wasn't your intent , apologies . But jsyk it can very much so be read that way . Once everything's cooled off go back and read through and hopefully you can see why its being read that way . Just read your reply to rebranding too and I dont think one person has said that will eliminate all grooming ever . They're saying "right this has been used for grooming in the past so let's just scrap that idea and make sure it isnt something that can be used for grooming again" It's learning and growing and changing the environment to be a safer space.

Evan1 hour ago

capzacsparrow I asked for where exactly that happened, you describing who you think it happened to is not telling where it was. I'm very empathetic to anyone who went through those problems, myself included. I just strongly disagree on how to help protect others from potentially getting into that situation. Educating on what to do and what not to do will work much better in the long run because there's not always going to be someone there to stop it for you

Capzacsparrow1 hour ago

Evan and I think you're missing what I'm saying , it isnt a specific thing that's why i said "you're going in on envious" because it seemed to be every aspect of the interaction you where having with him . It seemed condescending and like you where trying to put him and his experience down , but that's to me personally, and its why I've just added that it could just be Me misreading it because I have none of the nuance to how you're actually intending to come across . No I get that and to me that's what wes was doing , he was sharing his experience and the information he knew to educate people who didnt know that it had happened you get me ? To me we cant just educate or just prevent we have to do both , educating them is ofc paramount . But so is preventing situations we know have a good chance of leading to stuff like grooming . For all we know any of those people could be on the site and we just dont know about it because they haven't revealed who they are yet ygm? And just too add I dont mean any of this to come across like i think you're a bad person ect , ik you arent lmao , I think its all just got a little heated between everyone because its such an emotionally charged topic

Capzacsparrow1 hour ago

Evan jesus christ sorry for the novel lmao

Evan1 hour ago

Capzacsparrow I never once tried to put his experience down, I've actually done the opposite on multiple blogs. I do think you're misreading my words which I've been told multiple times in my life that my intention does not always come across correctly. I think a lot on both sides could have been handled/explained better. That is why I made this blog which I feel like more eloquently explained my thought process on the matter. Not doing a collage is a fine idea (barely anyone was even voting for it in the first place), but in this community there will be plenty of other times where the potential to share a photo of yourself presents itself. ORG casts do it, top blogs do it and get plenty of positive comments (which is a good thing but can look appealing to younger unknown users who also wish to gain that attention/compliments), hell there could be users doing that in dms as we speak. Two predators have already been revealed on here, I think the best course of action to protect is to educate, or if anything add an age limit so people ARE curious and can be explained why so they don't go down that road. I think all intentions are good, I just made this blog to accurately express why I think simply shutting something down and saying 'anyone who even thinks about doing it is awful' isn't the right way to go. I think there could have been a much calmer way to be like "woah this seems like a bad idea" but I understand why Wes jumped to the defensive side. We all have our own demons and I would never blame anyone for that. I think it's great that so many people here truly want to protect the next generation from what we went through.

Capzacsparrow39 minutes ago

Evan thank you for taking the time to better explain your intent , truly appreciated . I think thats why I wanted to add in that I know text convos can be misread easily lmao . It can be hard to read especially when emotions are involved! Im glad we got to a point of understanding ^_^ As I said i do agree educating is important but so is preventing situations that could be exploited by the unsavoury kind where we can :)